Tuesday, October 14, 2008

Feminist vs. virtuous women

As I study the feminist movement, and how it has touched my life -in ways far beyond my knowings- I would like to share some of my findings with other ladies. I must say, I find it hard to visit with others on this topic. Some just won't agree, some just don't want to go past skin deep on the issue, and others just want to stay blind. Me, I am amazed at what I learn-I am eager to share.

Right now I would like to share a passage from French author and feminist Simone de Beauvoir. She has a warning to fellow feminist about being successful in their agenda.
"No woman should be authorized to stay at home and raise her children. Society should be totally different. Women should not have that choice, precisely because if there is such a choice, too many women will make that one."
-----Her goal here is to destroy "maternity and maternity instincts."
While we have not gotten to a point were young wives are forced to leave the home to join the work force, we have gotten to a time were it is looked down on. While it may seem acceptable for a season, (while children are under the age of preschool- which could be 3-4 years old)often peers are interested in what you plan to do when the children are grown. (off to school!)
I can't tell you how often I have felt the look of pity on me! The look of, "You poor soul, bearing those children, having no college education! Being stuck in the house with all those children , EVERY day! Oh, I hope my daughter isn't getting ideas from you!" Sure nobody really says it, but ones eyes can say a lot sometimes.
So here is a thought to think on, and Mrs. Patterson, homemaker and adjunct faculty member of the Criswell College, points out society's double standard to a tee: "...much of the world would agree that being a housekeeper is acceptable as long as you are not caring for your own home; treating men with attentive devotion would also be right as long as the man is the boss in the office and not your husband; caring for children would even be deemed heroic service for which presidential awards could be given as long as the children are someone else's and not your own."
Don't bother telling me that this is not how the world we live in now portrays the females role. I think we all know it has gotten so bad--xo


Jessika Molen said...

I agree with you. Society is trying to tell us how a woman should be, and what our role is. I believe that the only things you can take with you in this life are your family, knowledge, and memories. I want to be able to be at home with my kids as much as possible when that time comes, but right now I am getting as much education as I can so that I can be a better mother. I am very glad that I didn't live back in the day when all I expected to do was cook, clean, and bare children, but I am glad that I can know what is best in life and what matters most. That is FAMILY. You can't find that in an "office". Being a mom is the hardest job there is(or so I hear)keep up the great work! Thanks for your post! You are awesome.

boy crazy said...

oh man......i seriously just sent you a horrible email from my best friend, about this topic exactly. right before i read this blog! it is a sign that God wants me to stand up for my beliefs, and that i will do! i am in total agreeance with you...the only thing i would add is that i wish we lived in cameron so our kids could reap the benefits of all of us together. xoxo

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Anonymous said...

Wow! It is so great to find mommies like me! Thanks for the great posts! I'm fairly new to blogging and love what I have been finding! I will visit often!